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In general, relationships are complex. Choosing to date a man in your race or outside of your race adds to the complexity of a relationship. And, dating a Haitian man is…. Foremost, this is not a representation of an entire population. This is solely based on my experiences and opinions.
If arried men find a woman willing to live as a mistress, the men will not hesitate to cheat, Viciere tells her daughter. Such statistics give way to the belief that Haitian men are promiscuous and unfaithful. In fact, the majority of Haitian men found polygamy to be immoral.
In an instance where a wife learns her husband has a mistress, the majority of Haitian men recommend the woman leave her husband. So why all the infidelity? Men involved in numerous relationships say having more than one woman serves as a sort of compensation for what one wife may be lacking, Schwartz says. Viciere agrees. She may encourage it. Because men in rural areas are often impoverished, women do not have many relationship options. This means accepting men who have other lovers, spouses. That means accepting men who have other spouses. Although not legal, polygamy is practiced in Haiti, mostly in rural areas, says Schwartz.
There are even proactive efforts to bear children in these unions, and the men are financially responsible for each wife.
Even the daughters of first wives often find themselves compelled to take advantage of resources only available from a man who already has a wife, Schwartz writes in his book. Divorce is rarely an option in traditional Haitian communities because entering into marriage is a hefty investment. There is a general feeling that relationships with men outside of the Haitian community will be monogamous because they are raised in a culture where monogamy is reinforced by law, said Schwartz, so there is a misperception perception that American men do not cheat.
But he also believes monogamy exists in Haitian marriages. Based on my observations, this is sadly accurate.
Mom always said, don’t date haitian men. but was she right?
I had the unfortunate experience of being duped by a 52 year old Haitian man I met online. I am a 48 year old professional woman with a great career. Our arrangement was a long distance one with him living in the south and me in the north. We spent several months on the phone sharing our life stories, him making promises and I foolishly believing them to a point.
We exchanged tons of pictures of ourselves, families, friends and pictures of our travels around the world. We called each other times daily and texted constantly. We talked about being the best partner for each other, especially since we both had bad relationships in the past.
He does a great deal of traveling, both domestically and internationally due to his type of work. We made plans to meet in the South for July, but he had an asment in the North and invited me up to see him in early June. Excitedly, I did and initially thought things were great, but a sixth sense told me something was not right. However, I made the best of that weekend even though I caught him in a lie about a photo over a Hispanic woman in his camera. Months earlier he told me about this woman and said he had only taken her out to dinner before our situation began and that she had never been in his home.
Yet, the picture clearly showed the woman sitting on his couch in his living room.
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I am a dark skinned AA woman of Caribbean decent. I live in a predominantly Haitian neighborhood. I work in a community serving primarily Haitian immigrants and I know that many people in the Haitian culture have a preference for light skin and straight hair. Knowing this, I had several conversations with him on my occasions about this concern and he denied he had such preferences.
I further observed his stares at women, especially Hispanic women who were scantily clad or dressed provocatively. Even his visits to the Islands, the women he tends to lure are women of mixed race.
Needless to say I began to express my concern which I think became overwhelming to him and today he is out of my life and I am out of his. Does this experience sour me on Haitian men. Absolutely not! However, when you have a large segment of people saying the same thing about the men in a particular culture and saying you are dead for dating them, then it is time to lie down. I did let my guard down this time around and wanted to believe he was right for me, but I am convinced everyday that he is simply no good for me and the journey I am on.
Jolie Personna, your story sounds about right.
I am a Haitian woman myself, and 6 years go decided to stop dating Haitian men. I grew up in a family where the promiscuity of the men is legendary, and has gone on for decades. My grandfather had at least 2 — 3 concubines that we know of. Each of my uncles did the same thing. My dad had 10 kids with 7 different mothers and this is just the ones we know ofmany of the children were not supported by my dad in any way, and some currently live in poverty in Haiti.
Living in that house was hell, I was abused physically, sexually and mentally by my dad, my half siblings, all while my STEPMOM if I can even call her that sat and did nothing. In the past 11 years, I have gone on to complete an MBA at Cornell University; I have had my shares of frogs, but 3 years ago met the most amazing man any girl could wish for — and we are currently trying to start a family together; also in the past year I started seeing a therapist to help me heal.
At 29 I am very happy, and sometimes I find myself in disbelief that this is actually my life. I am very grateful to the amazing woman who helped me in getting out of that mess, and gave me a second chance.
Haitian men are so…
Iv been with him for about a year now. When I met him I thought that he was sweet he has a belly and ahhh overweight. It gets annoying but I say to myself ok I still got it.
Anyway, my boyfriend is so jealous, I really think he has mental issues. I did…doing well…. I had a cellphone for a really long time. When we got together I let it b known that invade a boyfriend…. I did…. I need a tutor for math…. I toldm people communicate differently now an calls are more personal. I took my cellphone and threw it off of the balcony smh …Im sick of him boss me around. Tidy men get more sex.
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