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Looking back, I realize that every single time I unnecessarily suffered and by extension made my partner suffer through months or years of a bad relationship…. This article is by no means meant to be taken as gospel. These s are not commandments. The first and one of the most telling s you should break up with your girlfriend is simple. Sure, even the healthiest couples still fight and argue from time to time. However, these couples still enjoy spending time together.

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If you're googling this, it's probably too late: Emphasis on probably. Love is complicated, people are complicated and no stranger of the internet can definitively say what works and what doesn't for a partnership in which they themselves are not involved. And whether or not we're aware of relationship problems as they're happening, for innumerable complicated reasons, breaking up is hard to do: When people love another, when they want a relationship to work, accepting that it just can't is a prickly idea around which to wrap the mind.

There's a reason why the title question is one of the most frequently searched on the internet. To make that work a little easier, we've compiled a list of 10 common harbingers of a relationship's demise. The most important factor to consider in weighing a relationship's staying power is, of course, yourself — so said each of the experts with whom Mic spoke. Pay attention to what your instincts are telling you and what your behavior says.

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Nothing is more telling than that. When it comes to deal breakers, "verbal and physical abuse are one," Lisa Bratemanpsychotherapist in New York City, told Mic. To that list, Syrtash added guilt and a sense of obligation: "The important thing is that you listen to your instincts," she said.

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Abuse of any kind — physical, mental, emotional, substance, whatever — is reason one to sever ties. If your ificant other is hurting you, or if you are hurting your ificant other, it's time to split. Sure, when it's not the only thing you want to do together.

Whether sex becomes the last tie binding a couple together, or whether one partner's libido suddenly drops to zero, a change in bedroom behavior can herald the end of a relationship. Rachel Sussmana d therapist and relationship expert, told Micbut "it shouldn't be the most important, and it certainly shouldn't be something you avoid having.

Sex is a good barometer for how the relationship is going," she explained.

In early days, it's natural to want one another all the time. But as the relationship ages and life gets in the way, it's just as natural for desire to taper off. But, she added, "sexual issues are worth working through. In any case, an abrupt change in sex drive is a worth paying attention to. We all have our own lives. Everyone is busy, sometimes too busy to give others the time and attention they want or deserve. When it comes to relationships, though, one person's failure to make the other a priority can lead to a well of resentment. A question to consider, Brateman said, is whether or not one party is always left to do the emotional heavy lifting.

What's important, she told Micis "understanding power struggles and their conflicts. We, as a couple, are going to learn how we both can get our own needs met and respect one another. Having the talk is critical: A person can't change their behavior without knowing what they're doing wrong.

Let's say that the S. Not ideal, but so long as the feelings are gone — so long as things are truly over between them — it shouldn't torpedo the relationship. If the trust has evaporated, though, and one party is or both parties are jealous of the other, a couple can land on shaky ground.

You want to cut and run. And while most people are insecure, to a degree, there's a point at which insecurity becomes toxic. For example, when someone "searches for constant proof that you're loyal, when the other person seems to need constant proof," as Brateman explained, that belies a deeper mistrust.

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This is especially disconcerting if both parties have been faithful, but even if one has cheated, the inability to reestablish trust points to a relationship's demise. The bottom line is this: If the question is trust-based, as Syrtash said, it "boils down to instinct If you can't that's your answer. When the small ticks that made the person attractive during the honeymoon phase become unspeakably irritating, when that snort laugh that you used to find to be just so cute now sets your teeth to grinding; pay attention to that sentiment.

Most of the questions people should ask themselves are how they're feeling. If you find your ificant other intolerably annoying, you probably shouldn't keep dating them. This statement seems so obvious, it shouldn't bear mentioning.

And yet many people continue dating people who make them unhappy, long after their misery first surfaces. Whether because one person is perpetually putting down the other, because they've realized love isn't enough to float the partnership or because the couple doesn't bring out the best in either person, when the vibe sinks and can't be restored, there's something wrong. Feeling distracted, resentful, uninterested, bored, uninspired or bad A relationship that in one partner's depression or continual, unshakeable bad mood is an unhealthy one, Brateman told Mic.

On their face, relationships between twenty-somethings may seem safer than, say, those between thirty- forty- or fifty-somethings. Marriage isn't necessarily on the table for either party. Millennials, often characterized as selfish, may be concerned more with their own interests than with one another's. But at an age when partners may heap importance on, for example, their respective, likely fledgling careers, divergent visions of the future can pull couples apart.

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If you're dating someone who's being transferred or open to being transferred, you have to think about, 'How important am I versus this relationship? When it comes to the things we really want long term — children and marriage, even if not now or necessarily with the current S.

And while talking about those things can place a lot of pressure on a relationship, it's important that both parties have the same expectations. And on that note, dating apps can prove problematic. According to Brateman, when so much of our romantic culture revolves around platforms like Tinder, expectations can easily end up imbalanced.

She described a familiar situation: It's been a few months, the relationship has yet to be defined and one person is growing anxious. Internal insecurity or pressure to do this [define the relationship] sabotages what can happen" organically, down the line. But successful couples are attentive one another's needs, which means talking about them in the first place. Anyone who's ever been in a serious relationship knows that some fights are cyclical. There's always that one subject that neither party can resist picking at — which, Syrtash said, is totally normal.

It could be something as small as one person never taking out the trash, or it could be something as big as one party's inability to trust the other. Scale matters, tone matters. If "it's just become kind of toxic," Sussman told Mic"you can't even have a discussion without it turning into an argument, that's definitely a red flag. If someone tells their partner that a particular comment or behavior hurts them, and their partner persists — keeps hammering on the same old shortcoming, won't drop that single mistake of a year ago, can't forget or forgive past indiscretions — there may be a deeper crack in the foundation.

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Talking about it is worthwhile. Communicate," Syrtash said.

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If you already have, she continued, and nothing has changed, it could be time to cut the cord. No one has cheated — yet. But one or both partners are noticing other people, maybe striking up a flirtation.

Even if nothing physical has happened, when we pull away from our partners and start considering our options; when our eyes start to wander, Sussman told Micit's "always a red flag. It's also arguably human nature, especially among people who have been together for a long time. So when we find ourselves looking elsewhere for romantic fulfillment, we should take a step back and evaluate where that impulse is coming from. And when it seems like the other party is drifting, there are a few things to watch for.

Is she or he working later or hanging out with friends more?

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Is he or she more impatient with you or you're more impatient with he or she? If the dynamic is changing for the worse, it's a good idea to reassess. She described a scenario in which someone who hates sports meets someone who loves them. If person A invests themselves entirely in something they loathe, just to please their partner, there's something wrong with the relationship from the start.

In Brateman's words, "you lose who you are to be the person you think they want you to be," and often before they had a chance to get to know you. If one partner feels obligated to be a different sort of person because their partner is overbearing and intolerant, that's a problem, too. It's best to bail sooner, rather than later. At the bottom of all of this is the idea that you have to listen to yourself and your intuition. If you find yourself regularly wondering whether or not you should break up with your ificant other, take note: That question means something.

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